Narrative Therapy

Exploring the stories people carry about themselves

Narrative Therapy is a respectful and collaborative therapy approach that explores the stories people carry about themselves, their relationships, and their lives.

We all make meaning from our experiences. Over time, certain stories can become very strong. A mother may begin to believe, “I am failing,” “I am too much,” “I cannot cope,” or “I always get it wrong.” A child may be described as “difficult,” “naughty,” “dramatic,” or “angry.” A couple may begin to see their relationship only through the story of conflict, distance, or disappointment.

Narrative Therapy helps separate the person from the problem. This means the person is not seen as the problem; the problem is the problem. Instead of saying, “My child is bad,” we might explore what the behaviour is trying to communicate. Instead of saying, “I am a terrible mother,” we might look at the pressure, exhaustion, guilt, and old expectations that have shaped that belief.

Creating a space to explore different persepectives

This approach can be especially powerful in family work because the stories families tell about one another can deeply influence how they relate to one another. When a parent sees a child only through the lens of behaviour, it can become harder to notice the child’s needs, fears, sensitivities, or attempts to connect. When a woman sees herself only through the lens of what she has not done, it can become harder to recognise her effort, care, resilience, and humanity.

Narrative Therapy creates space to explore different perspectives. It asks questions such as: Where did this story come from? Who benefits from you believing this about yourself? Are there moments that tell a different story? What values are hidden underneath the struggle? What would become possible if you understood yourself or your child differently?